Important Rules To Make A Relationship Last Long

Normally, two people are attracted to each other; begin to discover more about one another as they decide to proceed regarding their relationship and it grow daily. This does not mean there won’t be challenges. Yet everything about a new relationship is always thrilling.


Just like a seed, relationship has stages. Time to plant and nourish it unto maturity and each of this phase has its’ own challenge and different work to be done. Most of the work in a relationship is at the maturity stage when things can change dramatically. At this stage, focus switches to making the relationship work.

Though there’re still new and exciting things that happen, it’s just not as common as you may expect. Because your significant other is all charming now does not mean they’ll remain charming forever. You might not see those lovely smiles often as you see them now. Your significant other might not be all that kind at this stage.

It’s easy to become complacent with another person and take them for granted when they’re part of our daily routine.

Building and maintaining a long-term relationship can require some pretty hard work, but it’s also amazingly rewarding. Seeing the other person grow, starting a family together is a wonderful.

Here are the 8 rules to make a relationship last and remain exciting:

1. Always leave communication lines open.
The place of open communication in a relationship cannot be over emphasized as it is one of the bed rocks of any successful relationship.

Obviously, communication is involved in our daily life, big or small, old or young,  buying or selling, sharing emotions with our partners, taking the garbage out, you name It. The fact is that effective communication will determine how well you enjoy your day. So it is in relationships.

Communication is vital in understanding one another. You may think that you already know your partner, but do you know about their day? Do you know if they’re weighed down, feeling sick, unappreciated at work, or something else they may be thinking or feeling? Communication is far from saying ‘hello, how are you’. Open communication is the only way to maintain balance while further progressing in a relationship. Yes, it takes time and effort to understand a person but if you want an exciting relationship, it’s a sacrifice worth paying.

Open/good communication is not difficult to achieve in any relationship. All it takes is some dedication/decision to have and to enjoy one. Sometimes it all happen on its’ own if both partners already know what they want out of the relationship. You will realize you didn’t talk about having an open communication, but its’ just there and you’re both enjoying your relationship – watch it so you don’t take it for granted.

For most guys, when they feel you’re taking their openness for granted, they tend to withdraw and start hiding stuffs from you.

Good communication is about being comfortable enough to tell your partner everything – the good, the bad and the ugly. As expected, we don’t want to hurt each other’s feelings by being abrupt and straightforward sometimes. But, that’s part of open communication: being honest whether you do or don’t feel like it – wisdom.

2. Fashion a common dream for your life/have a shared vision.
It’s much easier to lose sight of the more important and long-term reasons for being together in a relationship in the midst of paying bills, cleaning the house, working long hours, taking care of the kids and taking care of other responsibilities.

It is essential to develop a mindfulness of ‘us’ as you progress in your relationship. With this, you’ll be able to have a shared vision/goal. For instance: deciding and saying things like ‘We want to have a baby’, ‘we want to buy a house’, ‘ we want to take a vacation to the Netherlands’, etc and working it out is a shared vision.

There’s no particular time to talk about shared vision in your relationship but it’s best talked about when you’re certain of the relationship. One of the most favorable time to do this is at the beginning of a marriage and inside the marriage cause your needs might change with the presence of kids.

Having shared visions sets a good foundation upon which to build your life together. Another benefit of early and shared planning is that you are much more likely to make that dream a reality without conflicts trying to achieve this vision.

3. Expect changes in your partner physically.
With reference to #2, research has shown that your partner will change in some way every 7-8 years. The changes may be drastic but you need to expect to see some sort of difference in the person’s mind or body so it doesn’t come as a surprise. Many partners have challenges after sudden changes in their partners physic. This is because they thought their partner will remain perfectly shaped.

Change is inevitable in life and personal change is a natural process in relationships. Unfortunately, we often don’t accommodate for such changes in our relationships.

It is important to evaluate where you’re and let your partner know where you’d like to be within speculated time. If you don’t communicate this change, trouble awaits you.

Know what you’re thinking and feeling at a time and let your partner know by communicating with them and try to be as honest as possible all the time.

4. Say you’re sorry when you’re wrong and mean it.
I always say there are no perfect human but our willingness to admit our wrongs is what sets us apart. You must know that part of making a relationship last is admitting your mistakes. If you committed a mistake, simply apologize to your partner.

There’s no place for stubbornness and insisting that you were right when were obviously wrong.

Sincerity and eye contact are important elements to any apology except in cases when you’re apart from each other. Don’t let pride destroy your relationship. Pride/ego is a silent relationship killer. They won’t allow you apologize to your partner even when you’re convinced you were at fault.  Apologies only make sense when it is done with meaning.

On one hand is to apologies and on the other is to accept it. In a relationship, you must learn how to accept each other’s apology. So if your significant other is sincerely sorry, accept their apologies with honesty and move on.

5. Maintain physical connection/ intimacy as much as possible.
Maintaining physical connection is necessary for any long-term relationship. Physical intimacy is more than just being physically present during discussions. Without physical connection in some way, emotional connection is almost impossible. Physical connection/ intimacy are important in maintaining the health of your emotional connection, as well.

Physical connection/ intimacy are important in reigniting the passion and bringing you back together if for any reason you drift apart.

As characterized with most relationships, it is easy to spark physical connection/intimacy in the beginning of the relationship but it’s often more difficult along the line with emergence of kids, with work, finances, home, etc.

One of the best ways to keep the passion flowing between you and your partner is by prioritizing intimacy with them. Though this might sound easy, it takes effort to maintain this level in any relationship. If you can achieve this level of intimacy with your partner, the stresses that come with work and family will only be a minor roadblock as you continue to re-discover your physical attraction for one another because it’s a never ending process.

6. Lay emphasis on the positive/appreciate your partner.
With reference to #1, communication is very important as it is important to demonstrate your appreciation toward your partner. You’ll observe that it’s relatively easy to express positive/appreciations at the early stage of a relationship when compared to a 10 or more years marriage. Yes’ this can continue but with our decision to always see the positive of our significant other no matter what
come may.

It’s also much easier to show appreciation when things are going well. It’s still very important to tell the other person the things that you love about them even when the road is rough.

The reality of every relationship is that they do get stressful and busy over time and this is the exact reason you need to echo your appreciation for your partner over and over again.

Is she beautiful to you? Tell her such because ladies are never tired of hearing such compliments coming from the love of their life. Does she go all out to keep the home in one piece, give you peace of mind, etc? Let her know you appreciate her. Remember not every woman is a home keeper.

Does your man show a little kindness, work very hard to provide for the family, etc, tell him how much it’s appreciated. You might not notice how happy he is, but deep down he appreciates your compliment and is eager to do more. But the reverse is the case if you don’t appreciate him.

7. Don’t quit.
With reference to #8, resilience is necessary to making a relationship last. You may incorporate all the rules stated here, but if you are not unwavering in your relationship, it risks failure in near future. You have to decide to remain committed to each other and do what you can to stick to your commitments at difficult times because difficult times will come.

8. Learn to compromise because they’re inevitable.
Put two adults in a room and give them a task. You’ll realize they’ll have different viewpoints about the task except they compromise at some point. This is most evident when making any kind of decision whether big or small in relationship.

Sometimes, the two people agree and sometimes not. When there is a disagreement, don’t allow it to become a full-fledged argument. Instead discuss it calmly and rationally. If it’s possible, agree to come back to it later. It’s like giving tension some break to subside.

You have to be thoughtful and empathetic with the other person’s view. Don’t hear their response and immediately become defensive, insisting that you should have the final say. You can’t always have the final say in a relationship. If you are unsure about why your partner thinks the way that they do, just ask questions for clarity.

For smaller decisions, simply take turns allowing each other to decide and stick to what they’ve decided. If you have an idea, let it out in form of a suggestions and were necessary, explain why you have a different opinion.

Note that we all deserve a long-term relationship because its’ beautiful, but it isn’t easy to maintain. It’s not supposed to be easy actually because if it’s easy, you won’t appreciate the one you have.

No relationship is perfect. It doesn’t matter how great a relationship appears from the outside, there are always going to be trials.

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