7 Relationship Compromises You Should Never Make

Besides your health and safety, which you should never think of compromising, here are seven others yet significant compromises you should never ever make in a relationship.


Compromises are inevitable in a relationship especially if you want it to work. There are the little things like which cooking oil to buy or where to spend your next holiday. 

These are little compromises that don’t really count much but could impact the relationship. And then there are the bigger compromises which shouldn’t be taken lightly. There are also compromises that will leave you in doubt of the relationship.


1. Your vision for your life

For a successful relationship, both partners vision must be in perfect alignment. For example: You’ve always wanted at least three kids and live in quiet life while your partner doesn’t want kids or prefers just one and also like the hustle and bustle of city life. If after talking about it there is no concrete agreement, soon you will feel being suffocated in the relationship. You will feel miserable because you cannot compromise things like this. Note: there is no need wasting time if your life vision doesn’t align with that of your significant other.

2. Your dreams and goals for theirs
Your relationship can’t get any better when you loose sight of your dreams. If you give up your dreams and childhood goals for someone, you might come to recent them later when things fall apart. While dating, especially when you’re young, you need to go after your goals with strength. Peradventure, your goal is to become a renowned Doctor and you got a great job opportunity in a city where you have always wished to be, giving you the opportunity of meeting great minds in your area of interest away from your partner, you should take it. “If that partner is mature and respectful, he/she will honor your goals and support you in pursuing them,” says Alli Owen, a relationship coach.

3. Your values

Do you know your values are your true you? They are part of who you are deep within. If you’re not a heavy drinker but your partner is and it’s affecting your relationship negatively, it is sure okay to give them an ultimatum. There are no perfect being, we are striving to be better daily. As such, your partner should respect your values and want to be a better person. If you always wanted marrying a person of a particular faith, why compromise it? Wait to settle down until you find that person.

4. Your self-worth or self-esteem

In relationship, we all expect to be treated with love and respect right? Our partners should stand by our side through good and bad times. Our significant other should not make us feel bad about ourselves, so you expect and so it should be. It’s natural to have disagreements, but ensure to resolve your differences as soon as possible so it doesn’t become a toxic relationship. Poor communication in relationship can be damaging to your self-esteem. It can also cloud your ability to judge properly.


5. Your family and friends

Family and friends play important role in every successful relationship. They can easily see things you don’t see and help you have a healthy relationship. Be mindful of any partner who tries to keep you from seeing your family and friends. This could mean they are possessive and it has adverse effect on relationships. Of cause, it is normal to see less of family and friends because you are working on your relationship but keeping you away from them isn’t healthy. Though some possessiveness may make you feel desired and special in the beginning, it can also be a red flag in the relationship of things to come. Studies have shown that older people with friends are more likely to live a healthier happier life than those who do not have many close friends.


6. Your relationship type

It should never be okay for your partner to pressure you into doing things you don’t want to do. This could be going against your values or even your faith. You must define your relationship right from the start. When do you bring in third party into your relationship, how do you want to behave in public, what pet names to allow etc.


7. Your finances

It is important to plan your finances because nobody will do it for you. If you have goals, then you must plan. If you plan on buying a house, a car, expand your business etc comes with financial planning and discipline. Your partner’s bad spending habits can eventually impact you. If they are taking from you financially and not contributing to expenses, knowing that you don’t have such capacity, there is nothing to compromise here. They must stop!!! If at this stage it is necessary to have separate accounts, why not?

Healthy relationship requires compromises and it is natural to compromise on big things that could impact us negatively in the future. If you observe that your compromises so far are choking you up or they are moving your life in the direction you don’t want, it is advisable you consider the relationship if it is what you’d wished for.

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2 comments:

  1. wow. thanks for this. i have made lots of compromises lately.

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    1. Try and work on yourself so you could heave a healthy relationship

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