Besides your health and safety, which you should never think of compromising, here are seven others yet significant compromises you should never ever make in a relationship.
Compromises are inevitable in a relationship especially
if you want it to work. There are the little things like which cooking oil to
buy or where to spend your next holiday.
These are little compromises that don’t
really count much but could impact the relationship. And then there are the
bigger compromises which shouldn’t be taken lightly. There are also compromises
that will leave you in doubt of the relationship.
1. Your vision for
your life
For a successful relationship, both partners vision
must be in perfect alignment. For example: You’ve always wanted at least three
kids and live in quiet life while your partner doesn’t want kids or prefers
just one and also like the hustle and bustle of city life. If after talking
about it there is no concrete agreement, soon you will feel being suffocated in
the relationship. You will feel miserable because you cannot compromise things
like this. Note: there is no need wasting time if your life vision doesn’t align
with that of your significant other.
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2. Your dreams and goals for
theirs
Your relationship can’t get any better when you loose
sight of your dreams. If you give up your dreams and childhood goals for
someone, you might come to recent them later when things fall apart. While
dating, especially when you’re young, you need to go after your goals with strength.
Peradventure, your goal is to become a renowned Doctor and you got a great job
opportunity in a city where you have always wished to be, giving you the
opportunity of meeting great minds in your area of interest away from your
partner, you should take it. “If that partner is mature and respectful, he/she
will honor your goals and support you in pursuing them,” says Alli Owen, a relationship
coach.
3. Your values
Do you know your values are your true you? They are
part of who you are deep within. If you’re not a heavy drinker but your
partner is and it’s affecting your relationship negatively, it is sure okay to
give them an ultimatum. There are no perfect being, we are striving to be
better daily. As such, your partner should respect your values and want to be a
better person. If you always wanted marrying a person of a particular faith, why
compromise it? Wait to settle down until you find that person.
4. Your self-worth
or self-esteem
In relationship, we all expect to be treated with
love and respect right? Our partners should stand by our side through good and
bad times. Our significant other should not make us feel bad about
ourselves, so you expect and so it should be. It’s natural to have disagreements,
but ensure to resolve your differences as soon as possible so it doesn’t become
a toxic relationship. Poor communication in relationship can be damaging to
your self-esteem. It can also cloud your ability to judge properly.
5. Your family and
friends
Family and friends play important role in every successful
relationship. They can easily see things you don’t see and help you have a
healthy relationship. Be mindful of any partner who tries to keep you from
seeing your family and friends. This could mean they are possessive and it has adverse
effect on relationships. Of cause, it is normal to see less of family and
friends because you are working on your relationship but keeping you away from
them isn’t healthy. Though some possessiveness may make you feel desired and
special in the beginning, it can also be a red flag in the relationship of
things to come. Studies have shown that older people with friends are more
likely to live a healthier happier life than those who do not have many close
friends.
6. Your relationship
type
It should never be okay for your partner to pressure
you into doing things you don’t want to do. This could be going against your
values or even your faith. You must define your relationship right from the
start. When do you bring in third party into your relationship, how do you want
to behave in public, what pet names to allow etc.
7. Your finances
It is important to plan your finances because nobody
will do it for you. If you have goals, then you must plan. If you plan on
buying a house, a car, expand your business etc comes with financial planning and
discipline. Your partner’s bad spending habits can eventually impact you. If
they are taking from you financially and not contributing to expenses, knowing
that you don’t have such capacity, there is nothing to compromise here. They
must stop!!! If at this stage it is necessary to have separate accounts, why
not?
Healthy relationship requires compromises and it is
natural to compromise on big things that could impact us negatively in the
future. If you observe that your compromises so far are choking you up or they
are moving your life in the direction you don’t want, it is advisable you
consider the relationship if it is what you’d wished for.
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7 Relationship Compromises You Should Never Make
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wow. thanks for this. i have made lots of compromises lately.
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