Agree To Disagree Not Good Enough For Healthy Relationship

Healthy relationship is built on strong communication channels. Proper communication is a two way thing. Arguments are part of communication but arguments should not lead to conflicts. Conflicts from research always lead to unhealthy relationships.


agree to disagree not healthy for a relationship


Disagreements will always come up in relationships but your attitude for the best out of it is paramount. People always say let us agree to disagree. This is falsehood. Agreement and disagreement are two direct opposite of each other. The fact remains we are all from varying background with numerous experiences and ideology.



To agree to disagree is not good enough for healthy relationship. Relationship has to do with great flow of emotions remember? Now to agree over an issue this moment and then say oh I changed my mind on it will result to a great challenge over time in your relationship.

You simply contradict your stand on issues when you agree and later disagree and this kind of behavior or attitude will send a negative signal to your spouse / partner. Your partner begins to doubt your judgments and I am sure you won’t like that.


 Disagreeing could be perceived as disrespectful. It could also be seen as unworthiness or mistrust especially if you do not make your stand known on an issue immediately it is discussed and repeatedly done.

I also know the facts remains you cannot always agree with your spouse on everything: sure that is correct. The point here is that when discussing on any matter, be it a serious one or not, always make your stand known immediately. If need more time to digest what is been discussed, it is better you state it right there that you need some more time to process whatever information you have been given. This is mutual understanding and to some extent it doesn’t come by easily.

Agree to disagree has put an end to many relationships that looks unbreakable from the outside.

Don’t agree on changing the school of your kids several weeks before resumption for various reasons only for you to come home one evening when school is about to resume and start telling your spouse and the kids you can’t afford the new fees. Knowing fully well you do not have enough resources to see through the changes.

This is bad and could lead to trauma in the kids if not properly handled. Once an issue has been discussed and concluded at home, kids spread the good news fast.
Now tell me, how you think your kids will feel telling their friends ‘hey we won’t change our school anymore, dad said he can’t afford it’.

As a parent you ought to have done your homework by estimating the cost of changing your kids’ school. Making the announcement and latter reversing it could make your kids doubt anything you say about the family.


If you agree with your partner on certain issues only for you to wake up the next day and say something different, he or she will be like ‘where was your mind when we had this discussion’

You agree to spend some time with the family by helping with stuff around the house on Saturday and by Saturday morning you say hey guys I can’t help today, need to watch some soccer. This is disappointing. Your spouse will doubt every single thing you say henceforth.


If you want a lasting healthy relationship, you will not agree on issues without putting to consideration the outcome of it or what will happen if you do the opposite of what was agreed on or how it will affect your finances etc.

It is healthy to disagree only if what is been decided on will have negative impact on your relationship.

Be mindful of what you agree on because reversing it could put your healthy relationship in great danger.
You could be seen or perceived as chameleon or hypocrite because you are not straight forward. You are like the wave in an ocean, not stable and nobody knows its next turn.

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