Respect and love is inseparable in a healthy relationship.
We are complex being with great desire to love and to be loved yet filled with
flaws and in need to be understood by others.
When you keep failing in a thing
it points that you should change how you do what you do.
If your relationships have been failing, you should check
what you do in the relationship that facilitates its breaking.
There is never going to be a perfect human on the surface of
the earth, though we thrive for perfection each day. You must ensure to work
with your partner for a healthier relationship by avoiding things that will
push your partner to the wall.
Here is the list of
Don’t for Healthy Relationships
1- Don’t Capitalize
on your Partners Weaknesses
Most people in relationships are fond of this great error.
They capitalize on their partners weaknesses and expect their partners love to
increase. Nobody likes that attitude displayed towards them. You are to
encourage your partner in their area of strength while working on their
weakness to be better.
Scolding your partner will only destroy your relationship.
There are other ways of correcting your partner or telling them what you want
or expect them to do at each point of time and be gentle when correcting your
partner.
2- Don’t Retaliate
It is in the human nature to retaliate any wrong done to us.
But where is the place of love if you do this. Some people go to the extent of
saving every wrong done by their partner in their storage devices and use them
against their partner when the need arises. This is relationship immaturity.
when your partner apologizes for any wrong, you have no reason what so ever to
revisit that wrong with the intention to use it against them. Don’t retaliate,
it HURTS!
3- Don’t Over React
Over reaction or taking things out of proportion will change
the direction of your relationship towards dead end. A lot of people don’t consider the aftermath
of an event before they react. When your partner does something wrong, take a
moment to reflect what they did, think about what you will respond with and the
possible effect or outcome of your response to your healthy relationship.
Don’t amplify events in your relationship because events are
meant to occur.
4- Don’t Threaten your
Partner with Breakups
When you allow sentiment in your relationship, you are no
longer in control but emotions.
Don’t threaten your partner with breakups because they did
not do what you ask them to do.
Ask yourself this; what if you threaten your partner with
breakups and he / she agrees, is that how you will keep breaking up other
relationships?
Unnecessary threats may lead to relationship anxiety.
5- Don’t be Possessive
This in most cases points towards insecurity and trust in
one of the partner.
Your partner feels horrible each time you act like this. Though
they might not tell, you until they do something drastic. If you are at the
early stage of your relationship and a partner is been possessive, you should
be careful about the future.
6- Don’t Expect
Nothing but Love
Love is respect, love cares and love covers a multitude of
wrong. When you lose sight of this, you
are heading for a great disappointment. A lot of people are in various relationships
because they are looking for a Means to an end.
They fall in love with the bank details of a person instead
of the personality, love and respect they get.
When in a relationship for love sake every other thing
flow.
7- Don’t be Tight
Fisted
Relationship and love has something in common which is
giving and sharing. If you cannot share, you cannot give. These two are
building blocks for a healthy relationship. So give your fist a break and let
go time after time.
8- Don’t take Issues
Out
I know before you got into that relationship you had friends
and of course family. Now that you are in that relationship, your partner
becomes your best friend and first family member. That is why you are advised
to marry friend (friendship in marriage). When your partner becomes your best
friend, you will easily open up to them just the way you do with your friends.
Ensure to discuss issues first together and if need be before
seeking help outside. This keeps the integrity of your relationship intact.
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Don’t for Healthy relationships
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