Gamophobia, also known as commitment phobia, is reluctancy to form a commitment in a romantic relationship. Not just in a romantic relationship, but it is a general fear of any kind of commitment that involves other people.
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Commitment phobia is a complex and multifaceted issue that can manifest in so many ways.
Here are some of the types of commitment phobia:
1, Fear of rejection:
This type of commitment phobia is characterized by a fear of being rejected or abandoned by a partner or friend. People with this fear may have trouble trusting their partner or may constantly worry about being left alone.
Those experiencing this kind of fear naturally find it extremely difficult to make new friends and keeping old friends too. They typically fear they could be abandoned any moment in time. Hence, you almost always see them hangout alone. They only make friends just for the moment and the next day, they're all by themselves.
2, Fear of intimacy:
People with this type of commitment phobia often avoid emotional and physical closeness.
Unfortunately, people find these set of people attractive. They don't seem to exhibit these traits until you get pretty close them then you realize they keep avoiding you with no reason. Even when you ask what's the problem, they'll tell you nothing except for some few.
Those that manage to get into a relationship may feel uncomfortable with being vulnerable and struggle to open up to their partners.
3, Fear of losing independence:
Most people having Gamophobia, fear that committing to a relationship (any) will mean giving up their total freedom and autonomy. They may be hesitant to make long-term plans or decisions that would limit their own options.
They feel their personal space becomes available to their partner even when they are alone. They don't see the need to tell anyone how their day went, what they did at school or work, who they met, how the Dr's appointment went, etc. They kinda prefer being a line ranger.
4, Fear of settling:
With reference to #3, some people with commitment phobia feel like they're already settling the moment they commit to one person.
They may feel that they'll miss out on something/someone better out there rather being hooked with this person now or that they won't be able to find someone who meets all of their needs/standards.
5, Fear of failure:
This type of commitment phobia is often associated with perfectionism. A perfectionist is someone who constantly refuse to accept any standard short of perfection.
Perfectionism is characterized by a person's concern with striving for flawlessness and perfection and is accompanied by critical self-evaluations and concerns regarding others' evaluations.
In summary, individuals with fear of failure may avoid committing to a relationship because they fear they won't be able to live up to their own or their partner's expectations.
6, Trauma-Related commitment phobia:
Some people may have a fear of commitment due to past traumatic experiences in their relationships, such as physical abuse, sexual abuse, etc or infidelity.
This fear may manifest as a reluctance to trust or a fear of repeating past patterns.
It's important to note that commitment phobia or gamophobia can look different from person to person, and some people may experience a combination of different types of gamophobia.
So, probably you find someone who you expect some level of commitment from, don't be quick to call them names, it might be from traumatic experiences even you can't imagine. Just love them and hopefully, they'll open up to you so you can help them heal.
Types Of Commitment Phobia In Individual
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