Most adults grow up watching movies where women are portrayed as princesses and men as their knights in shining armor conquering war after war. In some other romantic movies, the lovely couples are portrayed as perfect couples and eventually rides off into the sunset in a country side home or to Beverly hills and become neighbors with maybe a top celebrity and live happily ever after.
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But no
one actually teaches us the things we need to do to have our “happily ever after”
in any part of the world we decide to call our home.
Here are
15 things you can do to have the greatest relationship ever:
1. Treasure and honor your connection.
Most
people start off well in their relationships; great bonding between them,
sorting out ways to improve their relationships, etc. But along the line become
complacent about the whole process.
Dear don’t
take your relationship for granted. Don’t get too relaxed like you’ve arrived
at your destination and no need to work on your relationship. Complacence is
one of the greatest silent relationship killer. Many a times we get too
comfortable and stop trying to make our partner happy, you think your partner
should also know how you feel without telling them where it hurts you and when
they don’t, you pick offence or try to hurt them back. It doesn’t work that
way.
Honor
what you have. Cherish it. And above all, communicate to your partner that you
value their presence in your life else someone out there might do it on your
behalf.
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2. Don’t expect any form of perfection from your partner.
We all
want a perfect prince or princess as a partner but we all know that perfection in
an individual remains a myth as no one is 100% perfect. So instead of looking
at your partner’s faults and focusing on what they should change, accept them
as they are and if it’s something you can’t tolerate in marriage, it’s best to
take a bow now.
But if
you can, focus on their good. Develop and keep feeding the good aspect and you’ll
reach a place of calm acceptance and have a peaceful relationship with time.
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Relationship
3. Talk with your partner about how much impact you have on each
other.
With
reference to #1, no one is a mind reader and some people don’t know how their actions
affects those around them. So you need to talk to your partner about their
behavior both how they behave in the house and outside the house.
Note: not
only the negative impacts, but the positive as well. If you want your partner
to change something, gently ask without criticizing them. If you think your partner
is awesome, tell them, thank them for their good. Remember it’s all about
developing and working towards having an “happily ever after” as the ultimate
goal.
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4. Look at a fight with your partner with the eye of an outsider
looking inward.
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Conflicts
are somewhat inevitable in relationships. But the ability to step outside
yourself and view the conflict as an objective outsider is important if you
must enjoy your relationship.
This
helps you see your partner’s point of view differently and helps to build a
better you.
Most
relationships are at the brink of collapse because most people have a “me vs
you” approachfrom the beginning of their differences. They view it as a battle
against the enemy. Instead, you should have a “we or team mentality”.
Remember
that a healthy relationship is not built on a single partner. You’re both in
this relationship together, so you have to come up with solutions together “A
team spirit is needed if you must succeed in your relationship”.
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5. Grow friendship before partnership with your partner.
You are
probably more forgiving of your friends than you are of your romantic partner
and this is because you aren’t friends yet.
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You’re probably
forgiving of your friends because you don’t put as many expectations on your
friends as you do on your significant other. A solid foundation as best friends
with your partner first is the best way to build a long-term blissful
relationship.
6. Discuss with your partner on building more closeness by
practicing empathy.
With
reference to #5, empathy is key to any great relationship. This is the ability
to see the other person’s point of view and show them that you value how they
feel. It’s all about understanding how your part feels per-time.
You
don’t have to agree with them on everything but allow them to express their
feelings without you making them wrong. This allows you to check your
perceptions and helps your partner feel “heard.” You also need a good listening
ear too.
7. Know that emotional damage can wreck relationships.
Emotional
damage can result from cheating, ignoring your partner’s feelings, withholding
affection, abuse, drug abuse. Emotional damage can actually take any form other
than the listed.
Emotional
damage delivers cruel disappointments to relationships. So if there was an
emotional injury that took place between the two of you, talk about it, fix it
and don’t ever try to ignore it.
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In A New Relationship
8. Support each other’s hopes and dreams.
Maybe
you want to open a fitness center or your partner wants to go back to school to
acquire more knowledge, you both need to be supportive of each other. Even if
you don’t agree with the dream or think it’s silly, you still need to encourage
your partner to go for it because it’s not your dream but theirs. Being your
partner’s rock and biggest fan is essential to a healthy relationship. Give
your partner the best of advice regarding their dreams and aspirations. You can
do a little research on their behalf to guild them through making the right
decisions.
9. See if you can each share what you need most.
With
reference to #7, it doesn’t help to suppress your emotions. At the moment,it might
make your relationship appear peaceful, but it isn’t. Both of you need to keep your
emotions checked and continuously share them with your partner.
This
way, nothing will be a surprise.
10. Give your relationship the best attention.
Relationships
are like flowers. Flowers can be extremely beautiful (relationships) but they
need to be watered every day. They daily need your attention to blossom. If you
don’t feed your relationship, it will die. Relationships needs nourishment just
as much as flowers.
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Healthy Relationship
You
can’t ignore your relationship and expect it to flourish. It requires constant
attention from both of you to flourish.
11. Have a shared relationship goal and find a way to achieve
them together.
Most
often, we don’t usually think in terms of “relationship” goals while in a
relationship. It sounds adsorb to most people. But just as you would have a
career/business goal, you should have a relationship goal(s) together.
Goals
like: getting marriage, buying a house, having kids/number of kids, etc. It’s
helpful to have shared goals outside personal goal.
12. Create rituals/moments in your relationship.
Rituals
are an important part of relationships. It helps to have rituals that you do as
partners. It could be going on a date night on specific day of the week. Maybe
on a Friday or on a Saturday, you chose a day convenient for you two.
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Some rituals
involve celebrating your anniversary each year at the same restaurant where you
first met or celebrating anniversaries with the homeless or at care homes. Or
maybe it’s an idea of going on a picnic once a month/quarterly. Rituals helps
in maintaining a healthy relationship. Rituals could be preparing a particular
meal together on specific day/date.
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13. Help each other in any little way.
It’s
really easy to express love once you know the love language of your partner. Do
all you can to understand your partner well enough to know their love language
and use that to your advantage and to the betterment of your relationship.
Some of
the little things you could do to make your relationship stronger includes the
following: Doing the dishes, rubbing your partners’ shoulders when they seem
stressed, helping with the vacuum, calling your partner just to say “you love them”,
bring home a single rose to express your love, preparing meals together, help
with grocery, etc. These are simple things that don’t cost a much.
These things
you probably count as nothing are highly valued, especially by women. It shows
attention, affection and desire.
14. Don’t take things too seriously.
There’s
no perfect partner; hence you don’t need to take things too seriously. Try to
laugh things out. Laugh at your own flaws and see tension evaporates into the
thin air. Laughter is a good medicine. Moreover who doesn’t like to laugh?
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Note
that over time, relationships get stressful and sometimes people forget to
laugh or what it means to laugh. People start focusing on their partner’s
negatives and they become resentful.
Try to
look at everything your partner does and in life as funny, yet serious so they
don’t feel bad. This lightens the relationship making you approachable.
“Couples
that laugh together, stay together”.
15. Equate your partner’s needs with yours.
Most
people are naturally selfish. We always put our needs first before others. The
fact is that there are times when you are a little selfish and that’s fine as
long as you aren’t selfish all of
the time.
If you
only worry about your needs and you ignore your partner’s, then they will
eventually grow bitter. People need to know that their partner loves them
enough to put them first‒at least some of the times.
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