How to Keep Your Relationship Alive In 2020

Strong relationships don’t just happen overnight. In order to have a successful relationship with your significant other, you have to do the work and in most cases, it’s not an easy one. If you’re out there deliberately seeking an easy way or easy type of relationship, you might not find any.


You might want to ask yourself if you’re mentally ready to be committed to developing your relationship because every successful relationship is a result of sometimes not so pretty hard work.

If you’re currently in relationship, use the following tips above to strengthen your relationship right away and if you’re not, get ready mentally for your next relationship because a healthy relationship is an integral component for living a great life.

Here are the tips to strengthen your relationship

1. Say “I love you” and mean every word.
It’s important to reaffirm your love for your partner by saying it out loud. Don’t assume they know you love them. Saying these words is like a reminder reminding you of your next appointment with the gynecologist. Sometimes it’s more than saying “I love you” but to perform little acts of kindness for your partner that let them know you truly love them.

Here are some ideas you can also use to reaffirm your love for your significant other:

§  Bring home take-out from their favorite restaurant.
§  Get up fifteen minutes before your significant other does so that breakfast is ready when they walk into the kitchen.
§  When you’re out shopping get they a little surprise gift.

2. Love languages.
It’s a known fact that we all have five love languages. Generally, people have unique ways of feeling loved. The love languages includes: words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, receiving gifts and physical touch. It’s important to know your love language along with your partner. Telling one another what makes you feel loved and special goes a long way in staying connected. Also make sure you are attending to your partner’s love language constantly.

3. Be vulnerable.
Vulnerability holds the key to deep emotional intimacy. Vulnerability is about being honest with how we feel per time, about our inner fears, about what we need, and asking for what we need in the best possible way. It’s allowing ourselves to be truly seen by our partner just the way we are without fear of how they’ll receive it.

4. Set realistic goals as a couple.
A team will always achieve more than a lone ranger.  So be a team of two that’s striving to achieve a set of realistic goals that are important and you set them together.

By setting goals together you’ll be achieving a lot and some of the prominent achievement includes the following:
§  Same direction/oneness. You’ll make sure that you’re both moving in the same direction and not opposite. A football team for instance have a set goal of winning the soccer game. Hence every member of that team work to achieve just that one goal and everyone is happy with the outcome of the game.
§  Your wins are always theirs. It doesn’t matter who scored in the match but which team won the game.
§  You can celebrate together each time you achieve a milestone. Just like in football, don’t forget to celebrate the moments together.

It is an established fact that one of the most important components of happiness is striving to achieve goals that you consider to be meaningful and realistic. In turn, one of the components of a happy relationship is having a set of goals that you’re trying to achieve as partners/a team.
5. Communication.
With reference to #1, communication is key. It’s one of the most important components of a healthy relationship. Though, not everyone knows how to communicate properly and some don’t even bother to communicate at all.

Happy and healthy couples vocalize their love for one another, saying “I love you” and expressing it one way or the other often and offering regular compliments for any kindness shown.

Communication also includes discussing the bad. In order to move forward and grow strong, you need to be able to truly talk about your feelings with your partner instead of sweeping issues under the carpet. No matter how awkward or uncomfortable it feels, it will make for a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship. Just look for the best way to communicate how you feel to your significant other.

6. Be supportive.
Many people don’t see this as an important aspect of a healthy relationship. It’s actually more than saying “I love you”. You should also express that love by being supportive. There’re a thousand ways to be supportive of your partner.

Here’re a few of them:

§  Provide emotional support for your partner. It’s your duty to listen to them whenever they need to talk.
§  Give compliments and praise often. We’re not always happy when we do or go the extra mile for our partner and don’t get complimented or praised for our effort. In some way, lack of compliments/praise have a way of negatively affecting our relationship.
§  Give them information that they might need. If you truly care for your partner, their interest automatically becomes yours. As you step out pursuing your dreams, have that of your partner in heart. If you do, you’ll definitely come across material or information they might need.
§  Being supportive also mean giving your partner a hand when they need it because that’s when it counts. For example, doing their house chores when they have a lot going on.

7. Gratitude.
With reference to #6, we often forget to let other people in our lives know that we appreciate them because we’ve become too familiar with them. We think it, but we often don't remember to show it. This happen in romantic relationships too.

Show your significant other that you love them. This could be done with words, cards, flowers, acts of kindness, etc with reference to #2.

8. Include fairness in your fights.
How you deal with disagreements is what destroys relationships and not disagreements itself. There’s a 95% chance of a fight occurring in any relationship and this is because you’re dealing with another human being.

So when disagreements occur, do you go into it with a heart of looking for resolution or of getting vengeance or to be in control? You’ll never win if you do that even if your partner let it slide, it’s a temporal solution.

If you make your relationship a competition that means your spouse has to lose in order for you to win and that is not fighting with fairness/common ground. Note that it’s not a competition but partnership.

Fighting fair includes the following:
§  Know what you’re trying to achieve while fighting/quarrelling.
§  Set boundaries in the relationship so that you don’t end up arguing about every negative thing that has ever happened in your relationship any time you have a fight.
§  Don’t form the habit of silencing your partner. Let them speak as it’s bothering them but they should also know how they convey their thoughts/feelings concerning the issue at hand.
§  Practice active listening. This is different from just listening. It’s being part of the discussion body and soul. Paraphrase where necessary to make sure that you understood what the other person said and ask for clarification if there’s something that you’re not clear about so your partner will know you’re on same page.
§  Set a time limit for resolving your differences. Though this varies from partners. It’s all about mutual understanding. There’re partners who agree to resolve differences same day it occur. They don’t allow the sun go down before calling out their partner to discuss and resolve pending issues.
§  You must be willing to compromise.

9. Respect.
Respect is crucial in every type of relationship. It’s as important as our breath. Respecting your significant other comes in many forms. For instance; maintaining a wonderful relationship means respecting your partner’s time, heart, character, and of cause trust.

However, there are lots of things people do in relationships that can mean disrespect. They include name-calling, talking negatively about your significant other to friends and family, and/or threatening to leave the relationship at the slightest provocation.

10. Look at your partner’s positive qualities rather than the negatives.
It’s vital that we look at our partner’s positive qualities in contrast to their negatives. Nobody is perfect, and that includes your significant other. So instead of focusing on the bad, try and make conscious effort to look at their good/positive qualities while you’re working on yourself as well.

11. Sex.
Keep your sex life alive and interesting. "Spicing it up" is not just meant for the kitchen.

12. Spend quality time with your partner and not quantity time.
It’s all about quality time over quantity time. There’s a great difference between this two and you should not that. It doesn’t matter how much time you and your significant other spend together but the quality of it.

There’s a difference between having dinner at a table while talking about your day and having dinner while sitting on a couch watching your favorite TV show.

Spending quality time with your significant other has a way of maintaining deep connection between you two.

13. Choose your battles wisely.
With reference to #8, choose your battles wisely. Arguments are eminent in relationships. It’s crucial to bring issues up with the aim of talking and working through the hard times together. However, I don’t think arguing over your partner sitting on your favorite chair should be one of those. So, it’s important to choose your battles wisely, because those in happy and healthy relationships do.

14. No comparison with other relationships or your partner with another’s.
The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Peradventure it is, it might not be the kind of grass you like. It’s in the human nature to compare our lives to others — like their jobs, their homes, their clothes, their relationships, etc.

Thanks to social media for making comparison much more easier. In today’s world, you can flip through your phone and feel you’re not of this planet. You see people make lovely post of their partner, relationships, family and even jobs without posting the side that hurts them in the shoe.

Happiest couples don’t bother to look to see what the grass is like on the other side. They are happy with the view at their side and work to make it greener each day.

15. Time apart.
With reference to #12, it’s important to spend time with your significant other. But just as important is spending time apart. The bottom line is being able to do your own things and remain independent is vital to your relationship.

When couples spend too much time together, it can create an unhealthy codependence or atmosphere where partners seem to be too familiar with each other. It’s cool to miss each other time after time while maintaining healthy boundaries.

Here are other tips to strengthen your relationship in year 2020

16. Practice acceptance.
17. Recognize that all relationships have their ups and downs.
18. Use the word “we”.
19. Keep the freshness alive.
20. Keep the playfulness alive.
22. Show each other daily physical affection.

What makes for a healthy romantic relationship differs from couple to couple. Forming a trusting and positive partnership takes effort and time.

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