Strong relationships don’t just happen overnight. In order to
have a successful relationship with your significant other, you have to do the
work and in most cases, it’s not an easy one. If you’re out there deliberately
seeking an easy way or easy type of relationship, you might not find any.
You might want to ask yourself if you’re mentally ready to be
committed to developing your relationship because every successful relationship
is a result of sometimes not so pretty hard work.
If you’re currently in relationship, use the following tips
above to strengthen your relationship right away and if you’re not, get ready
mentally for your next relationship because a healthy relationship is an integral
component for living
a great life.
Here are the tips to strengthen your relationship
1. Say “I love
you” and mean every word.
It’s important to reaffirm your love for
your partner by saying it out loud. Don’t assume they know you love them.
Saying these words is like a reminder reminding you of your next appointment
with the gynecologist. Sometimes it’s more than saying “I love you” but to perform
little acts of kindness for your partner that let them know you truly love
them.
Here are some ideas you can also use to
reaffirm your love for your significant other:
§ Bring
home take-out from their favorite restaurant.
§ Get
up fifteen minutes before your significant other does so that breakfast is
ready when they walk into the kitchen.
§ When
you’re out shopping get they a little surprise gift.
2.
Love languages.
It’s
a known fact that we all have five love languages. Generally, people have
unique ways of feeling loved. The love languages includes: words of affirmation,
acts of service, quality time, receiving gifts and physical touch. It’s
important to know your love language along with your partner. Telling one another
what makes you feel loved and special goes a long way in staying connected. Also
make sure you are attending to your partner’s love language constantly.
3. Be vulnerable.
Vulnerability holds the key to deep emotional
intimacy. Vulnerability is about being honest with how we feel per time, about
our inner fears, about what we need, and asking for what we need in the best
possible way. It’s allowing ourselves to be truly seen by our partner just the
way we are without fear of how they’ll receive it.
4. Set realistic goals as a couple.
A team will always achieve more than a
lone ranger. So be a team of two that’s
striving to achieve a set of realistic goals that are important and you set them
together.
By setting goals together you’ll be
achieving a lot and some of the prominent achievement includes the following:
§ Same
direction/oneness. You’ll make sure that you’re both moving in the same
direction and not opposite. A football team for instance have a set goal of
winning the soccer game. Hence every member of that team work to achieve just
that one goal and everyone is happy with the outcome of the game.
§ Your
wins are always theirs. It doesn’t matter who scored in the match but which
team won the game.
§ You
can celebrate together each time you achieve a milestone. Just like in
football, don’t forget to celebrate the moments together.
It is an established
fact that one of the most important components of happiness is striving to
achieve goals that you consider to be meaningful and realistic. In turn, one of
the components of a happy relationship is having a set of goals that you’re
trying to achieve as partners/a team.
5. Communication.
With
reference to #1, communication is key. It’s one of the most important components
of a healthy relationship. Though, not everyone knows how to communicate
properly and some don’t even bother to communicate at all.
Happy
and healthy couples vocalize their love for one another, saying “I love you” and
expressing it one way or the other often and offering regular compliments for
any kindness shown.
Communication
also includes discussing the bad. In order to move forward and grow strong, you
need to be able to truly talk about your feelings with your partner instead of
sweeping issues under the carpet. No matter how awkward or uncomfortable it
feels, it will make for a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship. Just look
for the best way to communicate how you feel to your significant other.
6. Be supportive.
Many
people don’t see this as an important aspect of a healthy relationship. It’s actually more than saying “I love you”. You should also express that love by
being supportive. There’re a thousand ways to be supportive of your partner.
Here’re
a few of them:
§ Provide
emotional support for your partner. It’s your duty to listen to them whenever
they need to talk.
§ Give
compliments and praise often. We’re not always happy when we do or go the extra
mile for our partner and don’t get complimented or praised for our effort. In some
way, lack of compliments/praise have a way of negatively affecting our
relationship.
§ Give
them information that they might need. If you truly care for your partner,
their interest automatically becomes yours. As you step out pursuing your
dreams, have that of your partner in heart. If you do, you’ll definitely come
across material or information they might need.
§ Being
supportive also mean giving your partner a hand when they need it because that’s
when it counts. For example, doing their house chores when they have a lot going
on.
7.
Gratitude.
With
reference to #6, we often forget to let other people in our lives know that we
appreciate them because we’ve become too familiar with them. We think it, but
we often don't remember to show it. This happen in romantic relationships too.
Show
your significant other that you love them. This could be done with words,
cards, flowers, acts of kindness, etc with reference to #2.
8. Include fairness in your fights.
How you deal with disagreements is what destroys
relationships and not disagreements itself. There’s a 95% chance of a fight occurring
in any relationship and this is because you’re dealing with another human
being.
So
when disagreements occur, do you go into it with a heart of looking for
resolution or of getting vengeance or to be in control? You’ll never win if you
do that even if your partner let it slide, it’s a temporal solution.
If
you make your relationship a competition that means your spouse has to lose in
order for you to win and that is not fighting with fairness/common ground. Note
that it’s not a competition but partnership.
Fighting
fair includes the following:
§ Know
what you’re trying to achieve while fighting/quarrelling.
§ Set
boundaries in the relationship so that you don’t end up arguing about every
negative thing that has ever happened in your relationship any time you have a
fight.
§ Don’t
form the habit of silencing your partner. Let them speak as it’s bothering them
but they should also know how they convey their thoughts/feelings concerning
the issue at hand.
§ Practice
active listening. This is different from just listening. It’s being part of the
discussion body and soul. Paraphrase where necessary to make sure that you
understood what the other person said and ask for clarification if there’s
something that you’re not clear about so your partner will know you’re on same
page.
§ Set
a time limit for resolving your differences. Though this varies from partners. It’s
all about mutual understanding. There’re partners who agree to resolve differences
same day it occur. They don’t allow the sun go down before calling out their
partner to discuss and resolve pending issues.
§ You
must be willing to compromise.
9. Respect.
Respect
is crucial in every type of relationship. It’s as important as our breath.
Respecting your significant other comes in many forms. For instance; maintaining
a wonderful relationship means respecting your partner’s time, heart,
character, and of cause trust.
However,
there are lots of things people do in relationships that can mean disrespect. They
include name-calling, talking negatively about your significant other to
friends and family, and/or threatening to leave the relationship at the slightest
provocation.
10.
Look at your partner’s positive qualities rather than the negatives.
It’s
vital that we look at our partner’s positive qualities in contrast to their
negatives. Nobody is perfect, and that includes your significant other. So
instead of focusing on the bad, try and make conscious effort to look at their
good/positive qualities while you’re working on yourself as well.
11.
Sex.
Keep your sex life
alive and interesting. "Spicing it up" is not just meant for the
kitchen.
12.
Spend quality time with your partner and not quantity time.
It’s
all about quality time over quantity time. There’s a great difference between
this two and you should not that. It doesn’t matter how much time you and your significant
other spend together but the quality of it.
There’s
a difference between having dinner at a table while talking about your day and
having dinner while sitting on a couch watching your favorite TV show.
Spending
quality time with your significant other has a way of maintaining deep
connection between you two.
13.
Choose your battles wisely.
With
reference to #8, choose your battles wisely. Arguments are eminent in relationships.
It’s crucial to bring issues up with the aim of talking and working through the
hard times together. However, I don’t think arguing over your partner sitting on
your favorite chair should be one of those. So, it’s important to choose your
battles wisely, because those in happy and healthy relationships do.
14.
No comparison with other relationships or your partner with another’s.
The
grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Peradventure it is, it might not
be the kind of grass you like. It’s in the human nature to compare our lives to
others — like their jobs, their homes, their clothes, their relationships, etc.
Thanks
to social media for making comparison much more easier. In today’s world, you
can flip through your phone and feel you’re not of this planet. You see people
make lovely post of their partner, relationships, family and even jobs without
posting the side that hurts them in the shoe.
Happiest
couples don’t bother to look to see what the grass is like on the other side.
They are happy with the view at their side and work to make it greener each day.
15.
Time apart.
With
reference to #12, it’s important to spend time with your significant other. But
just as important is spending time apart. The bottom line is being able to do
your own things and remain independent is vital to your relationship.
When
couples spend too much time together, it can create an unhealthy codependence
or atmosphere where partners seem to be too familiar with each other. It’s cool
to miss each other time after time while maintaining healthy boundaries.
Here are other tips to
strengthen
your relationship in year 2020
16. Practice
acceptance.
17. Recognize that
all relationships have
their ups and downs.
18. Use the word “we”.
19. Keep the freshness
alive.
20. Keep the playfulness
alive.
22. Show each other
daily physical affection.
What
makes for a healthy romantic relationship differs from couple to couple.
Forming a trusting and positive partnership takes effort and time.
How to Keep Your Relationship Alive In 2020
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