Hmm, do you remember when you first start dating? How you spend lots of time getting to know the one you fell for. How you go on dates with your partner and you both talk for several hours without looking at the time.
Your mind keep racing each time you remember this person. You think of fun and exciting things you want to do with them, while building a stronger relationship foundation which is essential.
You
ask your partner questions about their life to get a better understanding of
them. Am I talking to myself? Probably not.
You
ask about their past, wanting to know every little detail about them. You
question their future, hoping you could picture yourself right at the center of
it.
Do
you realize your love for one another is growing rapidly? But hey, something else is happening as well.
Consciously or not, you two are bonding pretty well. Like serious chemistry
buildup. You just want to hear their voice. They just make you smile and take
the pain and stress of the day away.
This
is why, most often, the beginning of a relationship is so lovely because your
bonding game is so on point.
Fast forward - As romantic
relationships moves out of the honeymoon stage and into the realistic, “like
hey this is my real me” This is the stage where you know virtually everything
about them. "sitting around in your pants and watching Tv shows
together", “This is the stage you set boundaries if you haven’t done
that”, you forget something vital. You
forget to bond.
Don't
get me wrong, watching TV together is one of the greatest ways to bong with
your partner. This is one of my good time. But it’s also important to truly
bond and engage with your significant other.
We
often get caught up with work and family that we forget who’s standing right in
front of us.
Bonding
in relationship / marriage is never ending. There is no stopping at it. If you
truly desire happiness in your relationship, bonding should be one of your
priorities. True bonding involves both parties.
So
if you’re having a stronger bond with your cell phone, television, game cursor etc.,
and less connected to your significant other when they’re present, you sure
need some of these bonding activities to get your game on.
Here are the
bonding activities you need to get involve with your partner
I
have written extensively on date nights. Date nights are essentials for a
strong relationship. It has a way of drawing partners closer, it helps to
rebound.
If
your date nights are always to sit and watch “Gangaa” then it might be time to
have a date night revolution. Please don’t get me wrong, you can use Tv shows
as your date night if it’s well planned.
I
mean in a special way, maybe for the final episode of the show that you’ve been
longing to watch and not every Wednesday show.
You
need to incorporate some date nights where you are actually talking and getting
response and not all about the Tv show.
2.
Do something new
Keeping
the love flame burning could be difficult but with determination from both
partners, it could be a walk over. One of the best ways to bond with your
partner is by doing something new together.
Whether
it’s trying a type of food you’ve both never tried before to redesigning your
interior without external help etc.
Doing
something new and fun pack can bring some much needed newness into the relationship.
3.
Teach your partner something new
With
reference to #2, one of the best ways to have a stronger bond is to teach your
partner something new.
Let
it be fun and less seriousness attached to it. Teach your partner something they
would find interesting. This means you have to do some kind of research as to
what they like and find interesting. Though, it doesn’t have to be. Sometimes you
can develop their interest for something if you make it fun.
For
instance: your significant other might ot know how to speak Italiano, but could
make them have interest in the language when you speak with them in Italiano
and telling them the English version of it.
You
could teach your significant other how to play an instrument, cook, etc if you
add fun to your teaching technique.
4.
Go on a trip
I
love going on a trip. It’s a way of leaving your comfort zone and try something
new. Trips also help you learn new things and make new friends.
For
partners going on a trip, it helps them have stronger bond, learn new things which
might include food, languages etc. We tend to know a person better when we
travel with them.
Maybe
for some reasons you can’t travel far, you could try spending the weekend
together in a hotel within your state.
5.
Try play some games
With
reference to #alloftheabove, playing around is one of my favorite ways to
reconnect.
But
you have to be careful with playing of games especially if you’re competitive. This
idea could get you into some trouble. So if you’re going to play games, for the
same team. I mean you and your partner should play on a team against another
couple.
But
if there’s no team to play against as couples, then don’t try #5.
On
the other hand, if you’re cool, then playing opposite your partner can be a
great way to reconnect, laugh and enjoy each other’s company plus touching.
6.
Touch
Wow,
who doesn’t like feeling the warmth of a loving person? Wink!!
While
doing all mentioned above, add touch time after time. Like touch a little while
washing the vegetables, playing game, on a trip, the list is endless.
Touch
has a comforting energy. It’s a way to reassure your partner you care for them.
7.
Become intimate
If
you are feeling disconnected and distant, it’s likely to show up in your daily life.
The way you say ‘hi’, etc. Build a stronger connection again by becoming more
intimate. Try out new places, new food together, watch a movie together etc and
touch each other often.
8.
Gifts
Hmmm,
some people won’t reconnect unless gifted. Know your partner and what turns
them. Not just gifting them, sometimes the right gift is what matters the most.
It doesn’t have to be expensive, but the heart that gifted.
9.
Revive good memories
I
don’t mean living in the negative past. Reviving positive memories help in
bonding with your partner over and over again.
Talking
about happy memories from the past can be a great way to bond. You can recreate
your first date if you can recall how it went. Watch that interesting movie you
watched 3 years ago that made her cry or made your partner remember some old
good time etc.
Don’t
leave the past in the past. Just
recreate it if you can.
10.
Words
Words
are so so strong that they can reply in our minds for ages. What are you saying
to your significant other? Are you destroying their self-confidence by always
questioning their decision? Are they happy in the relationship the way you call
them negative names?
You
might call your partner fat jokingly and if she has little confidence, this
will play in her mind negatively and will make you two drift apart slowly.
Use
positive words in every situation when addressing your significant other.
#nofword
11.
Be kind! It’s super romantic
Omonode Nyerhovwo – “ Let me tell you how. There’s no one who receives or sees
kindness and doesn’t fall in love. There’s no one who meets a need and is not
pleased he/she has solved a problem.
Romantic
is show of love.
Love
is happiness.”
12.
Couples therapy
Many
people are scared of Couples Therapy. They don’t just want to hear you say it. They
dread of it. Couples therapy is highly recommended for couple that has become
extra distant and can’t figure out how to reconnect with themselves.
This
could be as a result of unresolved issues that would be helpful to work through.
Note:
In relationships, learning is endless. There’s no graduating in marriage school.
Hence, regular bonding is needed.
Bonding is one of
the ways to keep relationships sweet.
12 Ways To Bond With Your Partner For Better Relationship
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