Unlike unhealthy boundaries, Healthy boundaries are solid rocks for healthier relationships. The more functional healthy boundaries you have, the more pleasant your relationship will be.
Your relationship will be
filled with great amount of satisfaction, love and respect.
Who wouldn’t want a secured neighborhood? We fix the best
security devices or gadgets in our houses for what purpose? Definitely for
security and peace of mind. So also are healthy boundaries. They secure your relationship.
You feel safe even at the absence of your partner. You feel safe like you are
in their arms wherever they go. You feel right there with them. It is like a connection
within your spirits.
Healthy boundaries in relationships are like supernatural
bond of understanding binding you and your partner even when apart. It is a
great feeling indeed.
Here are Some
Characteristics of Healthy Boundaries
1- Communication
This is one of the greatest healthy boundaries one can have
in a relationship. The communication line should always be left open. This also
means knowing the right time to open talks with your partner. we are all
emotional being and as such might be emotional from time to time. But with
communication, there will be no hurt since your partner will let it all out.
Communication also bridges the gap of loneliness between
partners in long distance relationship. Great communication is almost all that
you need for healthy relationship.
2- Understanding
Most often, communication brings understanding. When you are
able to communicate properly with your partner, understanding your partner will
not be difficult.
If you understand your partner, you will know when to cross
a line. Understanding your partner will help understand their boundaries for healthier
relationship.
3- Intimacy
Any relationship striving to be healthier must have intimacy
and must be achieved with no help from alcohol or drugs. Intimacy achieved from
the use of influencer is only temporal.
In achieving regular intimacy, communication and
understanding is vital. When you know how best to communicate with your
partner, intimacy will come by easily. There are various ways of initiating
intimacy in relationships. What you need to do is to know the language your
partner understands best and use it to your advantage for healthier
relationship.
4- Togetherness
As seen in unhealthy boundaries, too much or too little of this
is bad for relationships.
Togetherness must be balanced. When it is balanced, separateness
won’t become an issue. For instance, your partner has to embark on a journey
and will stay awhile, when togetherness is balanced, yes you will miss the
presence of the person but will not give room to relationship anxiety.
Learn to give your partner some space from time to time. This
will make togetherness balance.
5- Commitment and not
Jealousy
There is a great void between commitment and jealousy. Jealousy
points more towards the negative while commitment is positive. It is a desire
to make something work for good.
When both partners are committed towards healthier
relationship, virtually all the above listed will be part of their everyday
life.
The reason why most marriages fail is as a result of lack of
commitment to the relationship from one or both partner.
6- Forgiving
The ability to forgive is essential for healthy relationships.
As humans at one point or the other, we hurt ourselves either intentionally or
not. Your ability to say I forgive you is key. Being unforgiving will lead to
mistrust which can later lead to depression in your partner.
7- Friendship
We all need family and friends in our relationship. They could
be really needed sometimes. But as much as they are needed, boundaries must be
put in place to check them. Friends easily cross their boundaries sometimes ad
this could be attributed to familiarity and I don’t blame them. The good news
is that your set boundaries will put them to check.
Set boundaries for friends.
In boundary setting, there are also varying consequences. In
setting relationship boundaries, don’t say something you are not willing to
follow through.
There are tons of boundaries you can set for your
relationship, but also consider the consequences for each before setting them.
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