You think speaking to someone you like would be an easy task right? Well, not always. You’re both humans; hence you can interact on that basis alone, so you think. But it’s not always the case. And this is why you may find yourself wondering how to seduce someone with words and not come across as a clumsy mess.
Some people find it extremely difficult to talk to
someone they are interested in without shivering feet, shaking or sweaty hands
and stumbling over words. If you find yourself in this category, know that you’re
not alone.
But, it’s important to realize that the key to
speaking to someone you like and getting a positive response is about the words
you say and how you say them.
Remember that everyone likes different things. It is
difficult to find a set of individual with no difference in what they like and
dislike.
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Note: One thing to keep in mind when trying to
seduce or have a conversation with someone you like is that we don’t all like
the same things. A word that might be sexy and sounds wonderful to A might not
do anything to another. In fact, it might sound rude and insulting to B. You
really have to get to know the person first in some ways so you’ll learn and
know what sounds sexy to them or not.
You’ll have to know what they like most in knowing
how to seduce them with words. Really, it’s all about being able to bring that
person’s fantasies to life in their mind.
How
to seduce someone with words
1. Use the commanding
power of humor.
OMG! Humor is very
powerful. It has a commanding power that virtually, know one can ignore. And we’re
speaking for many when we say that the key to seduction is HUMOR. Often, when
you make someone laugh, with or without hidden intentions, you’ve got them
hook, line, and sinker! That is, you’ve got their attention. What more do you
need?
That doesn’t mean throwing
in all your best jokes as though you’re doing a stand-up TV comedy show. It
means using humor here and there to make the conversation fun, at the same
time, light, and sexy in an indirect way! That is by not getting naughty about
it.
2. It makes no sense going
over the top.
With reference to #1, in
seducing someone with words, it is very important to know when the conversation
is over and done with. Else your sense of humor becomes worthless. Initially,
it was like a joke which is funny at first, but when you explain it too many
times, it loses it’s shine and it’s no longer humorous.
Simple, witty, short and
sharp is far better than long and drawn out. Leave them wanting more! Have you
noticed that’s what comedians do? They take a bow when you expect more. So, leave
them wondering when they’re going to see you again. They won’t be able to
resist you next time. But if you end up devaluing your humor, they’ll run from
you or just endure the annoying time with you.
3. Be honest.
Why would you try and be someone you’re not? It’s
really annoying and everyone can see through it easily. While you might wonder
why being genuine is going to seduce someone, remember that being genuine means
you’re building a bond of trust, and that’s one of the sexiest thing ever!
Yes, flashiness and cockiness might be alluring at
first, but if you want to seduce someone over the long-term, and avoid quick
hook ups, being yourself is always the way to go about it.
This is the biggest and easiest way to seduce most
people. If you want to seduce someone with words, those words should be
complimentary and they should be genuine. This doesn’t mean listing all
their points like hair, nails, legs, looks, etc. Instead, make the odd
complimentary remark about their hair, clothes, how you admire the job they do,
etc.
If you can make them feel like the most special
person alive in those short minutes you have a conversation, they’re certainly
going to want to come back for more. That’s how the brain works.
5. Don’t speak
about their looks.
It seems extremely difficult to try and seduce
someone without mentioning how great they look. And in fact, it’ll be more
effective if you avoid talking about their appearance. Yes you can.
You should talk more about their individuality. Tell
them they’re really funny, tell them they’re smart, and then ask about their
thoughts on a controversial topic. This might not seem very seductive, but
never underestimate the power of complimenting the mind. When you talk about
someone’s personality, they naturally flow with the conversation.
6. Steer
clear of sarcasm.
Sarcasm is hilarious, but not everyone ‘gets it’.
And if you’re trying to seduce someone who doesn’t really see the funny side of
sarcasm, you’re more likely to offend them than get their attention in a
positive way. And I’m sure you don’t want that.
Instead of been sarcastic, just stick to observations and compliment them for
their personality and have a nice conversation. These are all far more
effective than sarcasm, which can come at a later date, once you’ve got to know
them better.
7. What is your body language saying?
Learning how to seduce someone with words is about
what your body is saying as well.
Mirror them, making sure your body
language isn’t closed or defensive. Then throw in the odd flirtatious
look, light touch on the arm which has seduction written all over it.
8. Asking
suggestive questions are a great deal in the art of seduction.
It is very important you don’t make your hidden
agenda know from the start. Your aim is to point or steer their mind in a naughty
direction without them knowing it. They might still figure it out, but not
right from the start.
Be careful with this method, though, because it can
make you seem like you’re just trying to get laid.
9. Tell them
you like their passionate and spirited side.
Sometimes we all like to feel naughty. We might not
like to go about flaunting that side of ourselves, but we all have it.
Therefore, if you talk about something they get passionate about, tell them you
bet they can get pretty feisty.
It’s a great way to admire their passionate side
while also making them feel a little dirty. If you say this in a flirty way,
you’ll have them to yourself in no time.
10. Indirect
compliments.
These are compliments they won’t really know are
compliments right away. While they’re talking, you could ask them to repeat
something because you were distracted. But, make sure you’ve been looking at
them this whole time.
You can even say something along the lines of, “I’m
sorry, my thoughts were elsewhere. What did you say?” They might not realize
what you mean right away but they’ll pick up on the hints if you add some
flirting to your line.
11. Say
you’re nervous, if you are.
With reference to #3, one of the best ways to seduce
someone is by admitting your nerves are shaking. Yes, confidence is sexy, but
it shows you’re human to say that you’re nervous, and it’s also
ultra-flattering at the same time.
If someone is a little nervous to speak to you,
that’s got to make you feel good, right? It also make you have a soft spot for
the person. You naturally want to encourage the person to speak up while they
take their time.
12. Watch
the tone of your voice.
With reference to #7, you also should think about
the way you’re speaking and not just the words you choose. If you want to
seduce someone, yes you should be genuine and add in some humor, but you also
need to be a little sexy as well.
Keep your voice low. Make sure your tone is
controlled, even and not shaking.
13. Bend
forward but don’t touch.
This is all about the atmosphere. It’s not so much
the exact words you say but rather, how you say them. Lean in close and keep
that voice low. Don’t touch them, though. This keeps them on their toe. They
don’t know what to expect.
Just get close enough to be a little more intimate
than just talking with a friend.
Then lean over and say what you have to say. This
not only makes them feel special because you’ve moved in very close, but it
also makes your words seem like they’re meant for only them, which is sexy.
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14. Be
encouraging and supportive.
If you end up talking about their life goals and
dreams, ensure to be supportive of them. Tell them you can definitely see them
accomplishing those things they’ve set for themselves. Tell them they seem like
the devoted, hardworking type. Even if they’re not, they’ll love hearing that from
you.
If you’re wondering how to seduce someone with words
in a subtle way, this is another great way of complimenting something that’s
not their looks. Those types of compliments always mean more and seduce people
more than you could think.
15. Try to
know them on a deeper level.
You have to know someone a little better than you
might think in order to seduce them with just your words. That’s because you
need to know what they like and dislike, what they find sexy and what makes
them excited.
Knowing the above will help you tailor your actions
and in-actions so they’ll be turned on.
16. Compliment
their reasoning.
Speaking of complimenting someone’s mind, this is by
far the best thing you can say. It’s very simple yet a very powerful phrase.
After you are done discussing something, lean in and tell them you like the way
they think.
In learning how to seduce someone, practice is the
real deal.
Try to speak to random people and see their reactions.
Don’t lead them on. It means having general conversations and using what you
experience as a learning camber.
Seduction is something developed over time. No one
is born superior to another when it comes to mastering this art. Yes, some
people are more confident than others and that certainly helps.
Put simply, if you don’t try, you’re never going to
know.
Mastering how to seduce
someone with words is all about choosing those words carefully, knowing how to
say them in the right way, and what to avoid saying. Stick to neutral topics,
but always compliment them as much as you can, without going over the top.
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