Here are the 25 easiest ways to recognize a queerplatonic relationship:
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1.
They’re your first point of contact.
When something happens, they are the first person you want to contact, even over your romantic relationship. You are so close that you know they will be as happy as you are, or as sad as you need them to be. That is why you have them on speed dial just in case the occasion arises.
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2. You get all giddy when their text message pop up.
Like
a little school kid, when you get a text from your queerplatonic friend, you
immediately think of all the possibilities that the text may bring.
Are you going to dinner? Having another crazy night? Or, maybe just meeting for lunch. A strange feeling, it is almost like your first crush.
3.
When you make plans, you look forward
to them.
There isn’t a time when you say yes and dread it. In fact, you make sure to put aside time allocated to just them and you alone.
4.
They feel like the missing piece in your
life.
Sometimes, we search for people to be close to our whole lives that understand us. A queerplatonic relationship is like finding that connection that we have been missing as long as we can remember.
5.
You find yourself sneaking away to meet
them like you are cheating.
Your boyfriend or girlfriend is jealous of your closeness, so you find yourself lying just to meet up and hang out.
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6.
You use similar phrases
You develop each other’s mannerisms and start using the same phrases in an adolescent way without even realizing it. Your emojis start to look similar, you use each other’s phrases, and even start sharing the same body language and words.
7.
You seem to have about everything in
common.
With reference to #6, even if you don’t have things in common, you’re very keen to understand their interests and passions. If they have a favorite movie, and they recommend it to you, you watch it and probably like it too even if it’s the typical kind of movie you literally hate.
8.
You speak the same language.
Kind of weird, you have an ability to be on the same page all the time… who does that? You understand each other completely, and can even complete each other’s sentences because you’re so attached to each other.
9.
They seem to “get” you even when other
people don’t.
You are so close and matched so perfectly that sometimes they seem to be the only person who “gets” you. When everyone else is looking at you like you have a third nose, they look at you with understanding.
10.
When you dress, you wonder what they will think.
They say that women dress not for men, but other women. In a queerplatonic relationship, that is definitely the case. You want your bestie to think you look hot. And if they compliment you as soon as they see you, that’s all that matters.
Even if someone else says your outfit looks bad, you don’t care because your queerplatonic friend thinks you look hot.
11.
You wonder if what you said was too much or too intimate.
When you talk with your queerplatonic friend, it can get really close and deep, really quick. Although it seems totally natural, once you are on your own, you think… too much?
12.
You may feel attracted to them.
This doesn’t have to be sexual only, though sexual attraction is completely acceptable. But you do feel some kind of romantic attraction even if you’ve never acted upon it.
13. You two may have made out sometime.
It may be a drunken kiss or a full on makeout while cuddling in bed with each other. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that, but if you both enjoy sharing romantic or sexual intimacy with each other, you’re probably in a queerplatonic relationship with them.
Read: How To Build Emotional Intimacy In A New Relationship
14.
You feel weird electricity when you are
together, but you really can’t put your finger on it
You get butterflies in your stomach, but not romantic, just excitement because you know when they are around things are going to be carefree and fun, not weird and awkward… ever.
15. You kind of get jealous when they are talking
about another friend.
Nothing is harder on a queerplatonic relationship than a third person. It isn’t that you don’t want them to have other friends or even a relationship, it is just that you feel threatened when they get closer to someone else.
16.
If you have a free night you know who you want to hang with… them
Nothing is as much fun as being with your queerplatonic friend. Your partner in crime, they like to do the same things, and nothing is ever boring or shallow because there is always something of value to take away.
17. You have weird nicknames for each other.
Bromances and mutual girl crushes are based around calling each other weird names that just stick. Whether they were developed in middle school or in your 40s, it is a way that you both give each other the “we’re together” nod.
18.
You try to dress alike.
You’re very aware of their dressing style, and you can’t help but find yourself picking up similar clothes when you’re out shopping. If you’ve always been a jeans-kinda girl, but all of a sudden, you’re drawn to skirts, chances are, it’s your queerplatonic relationship working it’s magic here
19. Your significant other begins to see them as an
issue in your romantic relationship
You know there is a problem of your overreaching queerplatonic relationship when your significant other feels like they are in competition… and losing.
20.
Other people have their suspicions about your relationship.
You’ve had other people call you out and tell you it is weird how close you are.
21.
The attraction is obvious.
You get the “bromance” or “girl crush” comment a lot or asked if there is a crush developing. That is okay, let them talk, you know what it is. Everyone can see it, but they just don’t know what it is.
22.
There is no lack of conversation.
“You go first… no, you go first”… there is never that awkward silence. Happy and comfortable silence, yes. But awkwardness, never.
23.
You don’t have to explain how you feel, they already know
Instead of spending hours mulling and rehashing, they tell you how you feel and make sense of it all instantly.
24.
They get first priority.
You put priority time away for them when you wouldn’t have anyone else in your life. You don’t have standard hours with your mom on a weekly basis, but you do for your queerplatonic relationship.
25.
When with them, they make things all better.
You
don’t need a pint of ice cream, just a bottle of tequila and your bestest, best
friend.
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Queerplatonic relationships are relationships we form with other people that are intense and exhilarating. Although something close to romantic, it isn’t sexual tension that you feel, it is just that you have a chemistry together that makes the whole room jealous that they don’t have it.
Let people make fun of you. It is okay. Enjoy your
relationship for what it is and go with it. There is no shame in finding
someone on this earth that you connect with, laugh with, and have so much fun
with, no matter what gender you are and no matter what gender they are.
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