Best Help For Relationship Problems

It's really a difficult task asking for help with your relationships. Relationships are personal and sharing your problems feels that way too.

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Most of us get embarrassed being open about something that is so closely linked with our emotions. And some people grow up with the idea that asking for help with relationships is somehow shameful or just something you shouldn’t think of doing. It seems like a taboo in most part of the world. This idea has left many relationships devastated.

In the other hand, confiding in your friends or family about your relationships can be really important as the air you breathe. It can give you new perspectives on what you’re dealing with, help you realize that other people have been through similar situation and this can help you feel less alone.

Don't forget that "a problem shared is a problem solved"

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You want to ask: Who should I talk to?

1. Friends and family.

Friends and family are a great place to start. Yes you may worry people won’t want to hear about your relationship problems or you might feel vulnerable opening up, but try to be optimistic. You may actually be surprised by how receptive people are to being asked to help.

People often appreciate the trust you’re showing in them by talking about your relationship. They may also have been through something similar themselves, and appreciate the chance to share it.

They may also be in a position to tell you things you didn’t know. Like how to manage finances, problems relating to parenting, difficulties with physical, mental health, infidelity, etc.

The place of friends and family is particularly important if you’re facing physical or emotional abuse.

Most people feel isolated in cases like this. Talking to others can be a real lifeline.

Finding out more about the problem you’re going through can also help you feel less confused and more able to make a decision about what to do next.

Read: How to Be Friends with Someone You Like without Losing Your Mind

2. Get professional help.

Sometimes, getting professional help can be the best way.

Relationship counselors are trained to be neutral. The process of counselling often involves looking at the bigger picture – thinking about all the things that have led up to the issue, examining the relationship as a whole, considering the various different perspectives involved.

This puts you in a position where you can start to understand how and why problems have developed over time.

In couples counselling, the counselor will give both party the chance to speak and be heard. And in individual counselling, they will invite you to consider different ways of looking at what’s going on.

It can be a really useful way of thinking about any issues without emotions or pre-conceived notions about things getting in the way. So you just might consider getting a professional help if you feel family and friends isn't helping much.

3. Taking advice with a pinch of salt.

Getting help from others come with its own risks. People are often fairly one-sided in the kind of support they give especially if they’re a friend or family member. Because you’re giving your friends a one-sided account it may be your friends will simply agree with and reinforce your take on the problem. 

This can help you feel validated but may create more distance between you and your partner.

Also, even if they have been through something similar, it’s worth bearing in mind that everyone’s lives and experiences are different, so what worked for them may not work for you.

Ultimately, your relationship may benefit from you and your partner finding the patience and strength to have some difficult or tense conversations to resolve what you feel is causing issues.

Read: 21 Things To Talk About To Keep A Healthy Relationship

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