37 Best First Date Tips For A Successful Date

What is a date supposed to be? Knowing how to go on a first date is like meeting someone for the first time. You really don’t know how it’s going to end but you just have to meet them.


To have a better first date experience, you must get your dating practices down and this starts with knowing how to go on first dates.

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Most often, first dates are habitually boring, awkward, unexciting, and even torturous to many.

It’s normal for guys to build up the occasion in their mind for days or weeks way before hand, only to be let down after the first date.

Much pressure is often built up, little or no chemistry, little or no fun, not enough attraction, too much seriousness and eventually, nothing accomplished. Trust me, all of these disappointments crush men in their quest for love.

A well planed first date gives way for a second and third one and most guys have zero idea about what to do on a first date. They literally don’t know the right place to go, what to say, how to act, and most importantly, they don’t know how to set up a second date.

Dates are supposed to be fun, light and casual. Unfortunately, we forget all of these while trying to impress our date. A little emotional display could be added to your date.


Here are some tips for your first dates:

1. Keep it short and simple (KISS)

This is to find out if you have chemistry. Leave it on a high note with both sides wanting to see each other again. Many run out of steam when they go too long on a date. They end up saying awkward things they shouldn’t have said. Using KISS formula will help you out of this delima.

2. Time: Afternoon or evening

Several meanings or interpretations could be given to night dates. So if you meet at night, she might not be all in with the clock ticking or she’ll be wonderingIs he going to invite me home with him” or you might be thinkingshould I invite her home with me.This can cause anxiety that has no reason to exist in the first place. Remove all form of anxiety by meeting in the afternoon like coffee dates or launch dates. This gives a sense of security and trust.

3. Ask positive emotional questions and not logical questions

TheWhere are you from?, What do you do?, Where did you grow up? questions are logical questions and not emotional.What’s the best meal you’ve eaten?,What’s the best compliment you’ve ever received?, Where would your dream vacation be?, what would you do if given the opportunity to be…something she dreams of would be best”.


4. Be unpredictable

Been predictable is equal boring and great romance killer. Be silly if you’re and sarcastic if it’s your thing. Tell a joke if you have a good one and should be easy to understand. You can play light games etc. in all, just be a little bit different from others.

Smiling, laughing, and teasing a woman demonstrates so much more than confidence and shows a woman that you are a fun and down-to-earth person. She’ll also feel secure and free to express herself. Smiles have a silent message of love and openness and no relationship stands the test of time without love and respect.


6. No pretence

Posturing some superior or better version of yourself is misleading to your date and could be a stumbling block to your second date. Deception is a game that cannot be sustained and causes dissatisfaction for both of you. This ought to be (1) on this list. It is very important to be yourself in any date since the goal of dating is to find someone who wants what you want, and wants that with you and it is possible when you are your real you.

7. Why are you going on a date?

It is necessary to take a moment to do psychological preparation before meeting your date. This put you in a better chance for a second date. Ask yourself: Why am I dating? What’s my end-goal? Am I ready for a committed relationship or just dating for fun?  When you provide the right answers to these questions, it helps you to engage in a manner consistent with your intents. When your intentions are clear, your meeting will be purposeful and satisfactory.

8. Have fun and don’t be all serious

Make up your mind before hand, to have fun. Dating is somewhat game. You could either win or loose. Every time you meet someone new, you’re gaining vital information as to what you want and don’t want in a partner. No matter the outcome, this attitude allows you to walk away with a gain you can keep.

9. Bathe or shower within few hours before your date

This could sound funny but necessary. You don’t want to look worn-out or exhausted before your date. You will make her feel guilty, like she dragged you to date. It is also important you look fresh for your own good. Makes you appear calm, sweet and neat. Nobody wants a date with offensive ***

10. Take some breath mints / mouth wash

This is strongly advised ‘Take some breath mints with you and use within minutes of meeting your date’. This is essential in keeping your breath fresh. Offensive odor from your mouth could be the barrier to your second date.


11. Spray some high quality fragrance on yourself

There is a feel good feeling you experience when you smell good. Your level of confidence triples as well and dates are more comfortable when you smell good.

12. The right place

First dates should be as casual as possible. Though we want to impress our date in our first outing and that is why light dates are advised at first and should be afternoon. Do not go to the cinemas or a music concert on a first date. You could save those types of events for second and other dates.

13. Excessive flattering

Do not become excessively flattering toward a woman on a first date. This could send mixed messages and misinterpreted thereby hurting your second date. You could flatter but not excessive. Instead of flattering your date, give sincere compliments. Compliments are genuine and obviously could be expecting it from you to test your level of observance. Women appreciate and feel loved when a man gives attention to little details about their looks etc. compliment her dress, hairstyle, fragrance etc and you have half ticket for a second date. Wink!!

14. Never spend more than you budget for

It is important to have a budget for your dates. This will help you not to spend more than necessary. This is one of the reasons you need to carefully decide where you are going for your date. It should be a place within your means.


15. Similar to (3) above, never discuss any subject matter on a first date that is not important to helping you determine if the lady you are on the date with is long-term or not.

In this case, frequently used magic word is ‘why’. It is a useful one you don’t want to forget. Aside the what questions, find out why they do what they do or why they like that song etc. this will get them to reveal more about their personality and create a deeper connection which is key for better communication.

Wrong mindset beforehand could totally ruin the date. First date can be a complete mess. Hence it is important to remind yourself that a bad first date is not the end of the world. Learn from your mistakes for a better chance.

17. Pay on your first date

Unfortunately, you have to pay on your first date if you want to see her again. You have to pick up the bill. It’s the thoughtful thing to do and you wouldn’t believe how many guys try to see a lady again after making her pay or split the bill. You’ll look lame and cheap if you do so.

18. Call her before the date

You will look irresponsible if you don’t call her before the date to confirm the details of the date. Remind her of the venue for your date and time etc.

19. Don’t be late

You asked for a date, then you have no reason to be late on your date. Don’t forget to show up looking your best. When she approaches, open your arms and give her a friendly hug. Avoid handshake on a first date can be awkward.

20. Be polite

Don’t be rude to your date and anyone assigned to attend to you like the waitress etc.

21. No Cell Phones

With reference to (20), never take a call or text during your date as this could be perceived as been rude. Though you could, if only it is urgent. In which case, make sure you tell her who and why you have to take the call/text, otherwise she may assume it is another woman. Oops!

No cell phones during the date also mean you are completely present and she got your full attention – there’s nothing sexier than this.

22. Her safety should be your concern

Make sure she gets home safely. Show her you care about her and her safety. Make sure you drive her home, pay for the cab ride home, or walk her home and ensure to call to know if she arrived safely if you didn’t drive her yourself.

23. The next 24 hours ‘conditional’

If you really enjoyed the date and you want to see her again after all considerations, make sure you call or text her the next day (within 24 hours) but preferred morning. Let her know how much you enjoyed the date and her company. Her response could be ticket for a second date. Remember to use our unique formula ‘KISS’.

24. Preconceived ideas

This is one of the causes of failed second dates. There seems the be a urge to check out our dates online via Google and other social media platforms. This will surely leave a preconceived idea about the person you are to meet. So resist the urge to Google her. Just say no and interact with her like you just met.

25. Follow up message

This is different from (22) above. This has to come that night just before going to bed. Send her a sweet follow up text message. Remember to use KISS - “Sleep tight and promise you’ll dream of me too”. And dream she will***.

26. Don’t drink to stupor

I’m sure she won’t want to be picking you up off the floor. You need to remain in control and don’t make a fool of yourself by slurring your words and spitting in her face. Gosh, that’s irritating.

27. Be conscious of body languages

Give her good eye contact. I don’t mean stare at her suspiciously. Try not to be defensive and cross your arms over your chest, and by all means make reference to (5) above ‘smile’. Touch her arm during the conversation which will indicate that you’re interested in her. Of course don’t be too aggressive by putting your arm around her. Take note of what her body language is saying too. If she is put off by your touch you don’t expect her to tell you verbally right? Etc.


28. Pay with reference to (17) but!!

Don’t make a big deal of it. It says a lot about you and nothing too good if you’re asking her to chip in for her meal. Nevertheless, if a lady never offers to contribute after a few dates; could be a serious relationship red flag you don’t want to ignore.

29. Listen and be in-charge

Women naturally love men who listen and take charge!

Ask questions about what she does for fun, her interests and hobbies. Then use the information gathered to take charge and plan a date. There’s nothing worse than a man with no plan who asks.

30. Establish a brand that she will easily remember

Most guys don’t see the need of this, but it is really handy. Have a code/brand you live by. This is where you can stand out from your competitors. For instance:I always do what I say I’m going to do, and stick to the time I say I will do them. If you set a standard and then follow through she will trust and respect you.

31. Don’t set high expectations

Don’t plan the outcome of any date. Let it flow naturally. You need to clear your mind, be open and cool with whatever happens. Only plan on making a new friend. Otherwise, you will be greatly disappointed if it doesn’t go as expected.

32. Relax before hand

It is recommended to spend 1 to 2 hours relaxing and having fun before the date. This will help you show up relaxed and spirited. Before the date, stretch frequently, drink room temperature water, watch TV but not a too serious program, preferred; a funny movie, chill, and laugh a lot so your mind is clear and stress free. Your date wants a relaxed and fun guy and not a nervous and stressed guy.

33. Don’t talk too much you

She’s really not overwhelmed by your job, car, profession, money, etc. Be a good listener, let her talk, be present, and be interested in what she says by answering her questions, asking her too and don’t elaborate about yourself too much. One of the best ways to impress a lady is to not to brag about yourself and your achievements. Never talk more than she does!!!

34. Common ground

For every first date, this is as pretty much as essential as every other point shared. Connect with your date by finding that interest you two.

Building bond, trust, and comfort is the most important thing on a first date. A woman just isn’t going to want to see a man again if she doesn’t feel emotionally connected to him or something interesting about him. Find similar interests with your date and talk about things you both enjoy to really connect with her. Feeling connected is the ultimate attraction for a woman.

35. Be bold

Being unquestionably bold, you demonstrate that you are 100% comfortable and totally confident. Women pick up on this and they love seeing men who are confident in who they are and not what they aren’t. Be bold and confident.

36. End the date appropriately

Walk her to her car, taxi, or bus if you are not driving her. Remember her safety is your concern. Care about how she gets home. Give her a hug when right.


When you first see your date, greet her with a big smile and let her know you are happy to see her. If it’s Wink!!


What is her mood at first sight? If she’s crabby or distracted, you’ve got some work to do. You need to find a way to make her laugh or get her talking about her day and be present and make meaningful contributions all through her talk.

Note how she looks at you when you’re talking. If she breaks eye contact for an extended period of time, you’ve lost her. But you can bring it back with a question of interest.

What is her body movement like? Is her body leaning towards you or away from you? If she is increasing the space between you, this means she’s lost interest and if it is the later, keep going. And does she purposefully touch you more than once? If yes, you’ve got a winner!

It’s not rocket science to be a perfect date, but just like all walks of life, a first, honest and lasting impression goes a long way.

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