It doesn’t matter how long you've been together, whether for a week, a month or several years, there are a few conversation topics that you have to cover if you want to make your relationship sweet and last.
1. What does love actually mean?
This has to come first because love has a whole lot of meaning. It actually depends on individual. In other words, everyone defines love base on their personality. What they want, how they want it, etc.
This has to come first because love has a whole lot of meaning. It actually depends on individual. In other words, everyone defines love base on their personality. What they want, how they want it, etc.
Gary Chapman, in his book, “The Five Love Languages”, revealed
that the word ‘love’ is accomplished by so many meanings. Your partner’s
definition of love could be to buy you presents, when you’d rather spend time
together.
With this, it is important to know how your partner feels
love and how you want love to be expressed to you else you two will likely feel
uncared for if your love language varies.
2. How close is he to his mum?
It is believed that a man’s relationship with his mother reflects relationship with his significant other. If he respects and cares for her, he’s likely to care and respect for you. If he’s at her beck and call, you may end up feeling uncared for “jealous”. And if he’s not emotionally dependent on her, then you’re more likely to be able to avoid situations where he feels pulled between you and his mother.
It is believed that a man’s relationship with his mother reflects relationship with his significant other. If he respects and cares for her, he’s likely to care and respect for you. If he’s at her beck and call, you may end up feeling uncared for “jealous”. And if he’s not emotionally dependent on her, then you’re more likely to be able to avoid situations where he feels pulled between you and his mother.
3. Do either of you get emotional?
One of the most crucial factors in any successful relationship is whether you can each respond to one another’s emotional need. The ability to notice when the other needs support and be prepared to put in time and energy to do so is important if you must achieve a successful relationship.
One of the most crucial factors in any successful relationship is whether you can each respond to one another’s emotional need. The ability to notice when the other needs support and be prepared to put in time and energy to do so is important if you must achieve a successful relationship.
4. What happened with your exes?
Don’t push this too far because it has its pros and cons.
Talking about past partners will reveal a number of important issues about both of you.
Don’t push this too far because it has its pros and cons.
Talking about past partners will reveal a number of important issues about both of you.
First, a big difference in numbers (either way) may make one
or both of you feel uneasy. Secondly, a willingness to have the conversation
will build trust between you and an unwillingness to do so might reveal his or
your tendency to jealousy. You can set down some agreed guidelines about what
contact with past partners is acceptable between you or to totally cut off from
them.
5. Religion
‘It’s obvious that if your religious beliefs are deeply opposed, you need to talk that through. But even if neither one of you follows any religion or aren’t practicing, or have turned against your original beliefs, your attitudes to the topic will say a lot about your moral standards. Being brought up in a particular religion – or in none at all – may also have created some of your most influential experiences and your personality. Make sure you appreciate what these means to your partner.
‘It’s obvious that if your religious beliefs are deeply opposed, you need to talk that through. But even if neither one of you follows any religion or aren’t practicing, or have turned against your original beliefs, your attitudes to the topic will say a lot about your moral standards. Being brought up in a particular religion – or in none at all – may also have created some of your most influential experiences and your personality. Make sure you appreciate what these means to your partner.
6. What are your plans for kids?
To assume having kids is relevant once you’ve made a commitment in a relationship is totally wrong. In fact, the number of kids you both want should be discussed even while dating. Once you are deeply bonded with a partner, if you then discover that their attitudes are the total opposite of yours, it’s very tempting to ignore that and imagine that when the time is right, the two of you will agree.
To assume having kids is relevant once you’ve made a commitment in a relationship is totally wrong. In fact, the number of kids you both want should be discussed even while dating. Once you are deeply bonded with a partner, if you then discover that their attitudes are the total opposite of yours, it’s very tempting to ignore that and imagine that when the time is right, the two of you will agree.
7. What is infidelity to you?
It seem absolutely clear that you’ll be faithful to each other right? But what precisely does that mean? Give this a thought and answer yourself. For some people it’s a serious concern if you talk too long with opposite gender and for others, anything nudity is forbidden. You need to know you’re on the same page as to what constitutes a lack of trust. You might need to consider this “does what happens in Vegas stay in Vegas?”
It seem absolutely clear that you’ll be faithful to each other right? But what precisely does that mean? Give this a thought and answer yourself. For some people it’s a serious concern if you talk too long with opposite gender and for others, anything nudity is forbidden. You need to know you’re on the same page as to what constitutes a lack of trust. You might need to consider this “does what happens in Vegas stay in Vegas?”
8. Are you spenders, or savers?
Your financial future is dependent on #8, in some senses, it doesn’t matter whether your partner is a spender or a saver, so long as you are both happy with the outcome.
Your financial future is dependent on #8, in some senses, it doesn’t matter whether your partner is a spender or a saver, so long as you are both happy with the outcome.
Note that if you’re both savers, then you’ll be fine
money-wise even if you rarely hangout. If you’re both spenders then you’ll need
to support each other to have good times since this will likely overstretch
your finances. But if you differ on financial level/attitude, then you may well
complement each other. Ensure to balance out to make sure that there’s always
enough money available to keep you afloat.
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8 Discussion Topics To Make Your Relationship Last
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