10 Signs To Look Out For In A Healthy Relationship

It’s quite easy to spot a healthy relationship from an unhealthy one. Healthy relationships almost all of the time will bring you up and not down. Though there’re no perfect relationships, but healthy relationship has a way to make you feel good with yourself. There’s an inner feeling of excitement that keeps you going.

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Note that with the following behaviors and or characteristics of healthy relationships, there’s a critical point when it obviously becomes unhealthy. Faithfulness is awesome and we all should be. But at a time, it can be unhealthy. Being faithful to a partner who endlessly disrespects you is unhealthy.


Here are the signs of a healthy relationship

1. Trust
Trust is a big issue in modern relationship and if you have it in your relationship, you must count yourself lucky. It is believing your significant other won’t do anything to hurt your feelings or ruin the healthy relationship intentionally.


When your partner is comfortable when you do things without them, When your partner has faith that you won’t cheat on them, respects your privacy on and offline (like who you text, chat with on facebook, snapchat and instagram), (who liked your picture and who said bla!!!) and they don’t make you go out of your way or do much to “earn” their trust –trust.


2. Comfortable speed
This refers to the tempo you and your partner agree the relationship to happen. At a speed comfortable for both of you. It’s great you want to spend all the available time with your significant other when you start dating! But ensure that nothing feels imbalanced or rushed in the relationship.

In a healthy relationship, partners don’t pressure one another to have sex, are not unnecessarily demanding, they make the relationship exclusive, they move in together at a comfortable speed, meet their family, friends, they get married and have a family as agreed. 

Nothing is imposed on the other and when you choose to take these steps together, you both feel happy and excited about it because it all happened at a comfortable speed.

Note that quality communication is very important here. If a partner feels indifferent at any point in time regarding the tempo agreed on with their partner, let them know and don’t go nagging. You just might hurt yourself. This brings us to the next point!


3. Communication
Most partner lack common sense when it comes to communication. Some men feel they’re the head and whatever they say is final. They don’t listen to their partners opinion, etc. Hence they really don’t know how their partner feel – you just might need to watch that EGO. Lots of ladies think it’s when they nag their partner listens – you’re so wrong, he’s giving you some space – Unhealthy.

Note! If you can talk to your partner about anything—the good, the bad and the ugly— is a sign of a healthy relationship. Make your partner a friend because friends talk about anything.

For instance, when you’re sure your partner will listen to you when you need to talk about anything, they’re present while talking with you and not their mobile devices and that they’re open to discussing further not looking at the time to go watch their favorite Tv show and when you don’t feel judged for your words or thoughts on an issue.

In other words – when you gist with your partner as friends do playfully or not.

4. Honesty
With reference to #1 and #3 above, honesty is being truthful and open to your partner. It’s important to be able to talk with your partner about what you both want in the relationship.

In a ideal and healthy relationship, you can talk to your significant other without fear of how they’ll respond or judged by them. Sure, they may not like what you have to say, but a healthy partner will first listen and then respond to disappointing chat in a very thoughtful way so their partner won’t feel hurt by their disapproval.

5. Taking responsibility
With reference to #2, you and your partner are both responsible for your actions and words. You should avoid the blame game as much as possible and own up to your actions when you do something wrong.

Really, it cost nothing to own up to your wrongs and apologize. In a healthy relationship, a partner will genuinely apologize for their mistakes, they avoid taking things out on their partner when they’re upset, and they try to make positive changes to better the relationship.

6. Freedom
Freedom is missing in most relationships. Partners feel trapped. They can’t do a thing without their partners’ approval. When a partner doesn’t feel free to be themselves, they become insecure in the relationship.

Having space and freedom in your relationship to be yourself is inevitable in a healthy relationship. In fact, this will help you know your partner more.

In a healthy relationship, partners’ supports each other to having friends and a life outside of their relationship and not needing to be attached 24/7. Know your partners’ friends, but don’t get attached to them.

7. Value/Respect
A relationship cannot be healthy without simple respect. If respect is present in your relationship, your partner will value your beliefs, opinions and who you are as a person.

With value/respect comes compliments, support for your hard work/dreams, not trying to push or overstep their boundaries, standing up for you, etc.

8. Kindness
It’s awesome feeling a sense of care and concern from your partner and knowing that they will be there to support you. If you’re in a healthy relationship, your partner will be kind to you, they will understand and be supportive when you’re going through tough times, and they will be willing to lend a helping hand.

Most importantly, it has to be two-sided and not one. Thinking it’s your right for you to be treated with kindness.


9. Equal opportunity
As it is in partnership business, so it is in relationship because it is partnership.

You have a responsibility in your relationship to have the same say and put equal effort into the relationship to see it work.

Healthy relationship involves hard work and for you to enjoy its’ benefits, you just must work it out.

Where equal opportunity exists, you’ll feel comfortable speaking up, making decisions together and equally compromising on decisions in your relationship that make the other person feel important, respected and loved.

10. Allegiance
Relationship is actually pledging allegiance to your significant other and this makes you sure your partner is reliable and you feel confident that they’ve got your back at all times.

If you observe that your partner is respectful and faithful, stands up for you, doesn’t take sides against you but helps you see the central point, and keeps your secrets safe, they’re loyal to you.

You don’t have to test their loyalty because if you do, it means you didn’t trust them in the first place. In a healthy relationship, you don’t have to do that because you just know it’s there.


Probably you noticed your relationship isn’t healthy at the moment, you can improve on it. Not all healthy relationship started out healthy. It takes effort.


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