It’s quite easy to spot a healthy relationship from an unhealthy one. Healthy relationships almost all of the time will bring you up and not down. Though there’re no perfect relationships, but healthy relationship has a way to make you feel good with yourself. There’s an inner feeling of excitement that keeps you going.
Note that with the following behaviors and or characteristics
of healthy relationships, there’s a critical point when it obviously becomes
unhealthy. Faithfulness is awesome and we all should be. But at a time, it can
be unhealthy. Being faithful to a partner who endlessly disrespects you is unhealthy.
Here are the signs of a healthy relationship
1. Trust
Trust is a big issue in modern relationship and if you
have it in your relationship, you must count yourself lucky. It is believing
your significant other won’t do anything to hurt your feelings or ruin the
healthy relationship intentionally.
When your partner is comfortable when you do things
without them, When your partner has faith that you won’t cheat on them,
respects your privacy on and offline (like who you text, chat with on facebook,
snapchat and instagram), (who liked your picture and who said bla!!!) and they
don’t make you go out of your way or do much to “earn” their trust –trust.
2. Comfortable speed
This refers
to the tempo you and your partner agree the relationship to happen. At a speed
comfortable for both of you. It’s great you want to spend all the available
time with your significant other when you start dating! But ensure that nothing
feels imbalanced or rushed in the relationship.
In a healthy relationship, partners don’t pressure one another
to have sex, are not unnecessarily demanding, they make the relationship
exclusive, they move in together at a comfortable speed, meet their family,
friends, they get married and have a family as agreed.
Nothing is imposed on the other and when you choose to take these steps together, you both feel happy and excited about it because it all happened at a comfortable speed.
Nothing is imposed on the other and when you choose to take these steps together, you both feel happy and excited about it because it all happened at a comfortable speed.
Note that quality communication is very important here. If
a partner feels indifferent at any point in time regarding the tempo agreed on
with their partner, let them know and don’t go nagging. You just might hurt
yourself. This brings us to the next point!
3. Communication
Most partner lack common sense when it comes to
communication. Some men feel they’re the head and whatever they say is final. They
don’t listen to their partners opinion, etc. Hence they really don’t know how
their partner feel – you just might need to watch that EGO. Lots of ladies
think it’s when they nag their partner listens – you’re so wrong, he’s giving
you some space – Unhealthy.
Note! If you can talk to your partner about anything—the
good, the bad and the ugly— is a sign of a healthy relationship. Make your
partner a friend because friends talk about anything.
For instance, when you’re sure your partner will listen to you when you need to talk about anything, they’re
present while talking with you and not their mobile devices and that they’re
open to discussing further not looking at the time to go watch their favorite Tv
show and when you don’t feel judged for your words or thoughts on an issue.
In other words – when you gist with your partner as
friends do playfully or not.
4. Honesty
With reference
to #1 and #3 above, honesty is being truthful and open to your partner. It’s
important to be able to talk with your partner about what you both want in the
relationship.
In a ideal and healthy relationship, you can talk to your
significant other without fear of how they’ll respond or judged by them. Sure,
they may not like what you have to say, but a healthy partner will first listen
and then respond to disappointing chat in a very thoughtful way so their
partner won’t feel hurt by their disapproval.
5. Taking
responsibility
With reference to #2, you and your partner are both
responsible for your actions and words. You should avoid the blame game as much
as possible and own up to your actions when you do something wrong.
Really, it cost nothing to own up to your wrongs and apologize.
In a healthy relationship, a partner will genuinely apologize for their
mistakes, they avoid taking things out on their partner when they’re upset, and they try
to make positive changes to better the relationship.
6.
Freedom
Freedom is
missing in most relationships. Partners feel trapped. They can’t do a thing
without their partners’ approval. When a partner doesn’t feel free to be
themselves, they become insecure in the relationship.
Having space and freedom in your relationship to be
yourself is inevitable in a healthy relationship. In fact, this will help you
know your partner more.
In a healthy relationship, partners’ supports each other
to having friends and a life outside of their relationship and not needing to
be attached 24/7. Know your partners’ friends, but don’t get attached to them.
7. Value/Respect
A relationship
cannot be healthy without simple respect. If respect is present in your
relationship, your partner will value your beliefs, opinions and who you are as
a person.
With value/respect comes compliments, support for your hard
work/dreams, not trying to push or overstep their boundaries, standing up for
you, etc.
8. Kindness
It’s awesome feeling a sense of care and concern from
your partner and knowing that they will be there to support you. If you’re in a
healthy relationship, your partner will be kind to you, they will understand
and be supportive when you’re going through tough times, and they will be
willing to lend a helping hand.
Most importantly, it has to be two-sided and not one. Thinking it’s your right for you to be treated with kindness.
9. Equal
opportunity
As it is in partnership business, so it is in
relationship because it is partnership.
You have a responsibility in your relationship to have
the same say and put equal effort into the relationship to see it work.
Healthy relationship involves hard work and for you to
enjoy its’ benefits, you just must work it out.
Where equal opportunity exists, you’ll feel comfortable
speaking up, making decisions together and equally compromising on decisions in
your relationship that make the other person feel important, respected and
loved.
10. Allegiance
Relationship is actually pledging allegiance to your
significant other and this makes you sure your partner is reliable and you feel
confident that they’ve got your back at all times.
If you observe that your partner is respectful and
faithful, stands up for you, doesn’t take sides against you but helps you see
the central point, and keeps your secrets safe, they’re loyal to you.
You don’t have to test their loyalty because if you do,
it means you didn’t trust them in the first place. In a healthy relationship,
you don’t have to do that because you just know it’s there.
Probably you noticed your relationship isn’t healthy at
the moment, you can improve on it. Not all healthy relationship started out
healthy. It takes effort.
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10 Signs To Look Out For In A Healthy Relationship
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